Working with Children
How I can help the young people in your life…
Holistic Therapy for Children
The child related concerns I deal with are largely similar to those of adults if you exclude toilet training issues and substitute the workplace for school! Some of the common concerns include:
Fears and Phobias
Dealing with illness
In addition to my personal life experience I have a background in Early Years, Primary and Young People Education with:
- Special Interest and training in Adverse Childhood Experience and Childhood Emotional Neglect
- Enhanced Disclosure and Barring Service clearance
- Qualifications in Children’s Care Learning & Development
- Teaching Assistant and National Vocational Qualification Assessor qualifications
- Certificate in Child Counselling and Diploma in Child Psychology
First let me say this – you don’t have a problem child; you have a child with a problem and problems can be solved.
I’ve spent much of my working life working with children and families and one thing that’s certain, though it may sound obvious, is that if what you’re doing isn’t working then you need to change what you’re doing. It’s vital that you step back from the situation and detach yourself because if you are not calm and well yourself you are not in a position to help your child.
The old saying about children being like little sponges is very true; they are very absorbent and pick up lots from their environment especially from birth to 7 years old.
Remember that you don’t dislike the child just their behaviour. It’s very easy for a child to get this confused and to believe that your disapproval is of them personally and they are not loved. Believe me, as a parent I know how hard it is when they are pressing every button and driving you to the very edge of sanity. The last thing you feel like doing at those times is to give them a hug, but these are the very times that you need to do exactly that and show them the most love. The power of a loving touch is extremely important, especially with very young children who have limited or no language skills.
Children are often reluctant to share how they are feeling with parents because they worry about upsetting them, being misunderstood or making things worse. Parents often underestimate just how big their fears are to children and the amount of stress that they feel.
Children don’t have the pre-conceived ideas that adults have about treatment. They have had shorter lives so aren’t carrying around as much baggage as adults. Generally they are much more open and receptive to trying new ideas to make them feel better and can often resolve their issues faster as a result.
For children I use a combination of therapies depending on the age and guided relaxations / visualisations are very useful.
Sessions are with the parent present and might include drawing which is a good form of self-expression and can often be very helpful in shedding light on what they see as the issues. I can also work without the child present by guiding the parent, although this obviously needs the adult to have an accurate picture of what the true problem is. In my experience what the adult thinks the problem is may not be the same as the child’s perception.
Reiki therapy can also be used as Distant Healing without the child actually being present – more details about this can be found in my Reiki information.